Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Masculinity and Femininty challenges

For those who don't know me, I'm not a girly girl. I rarely wear dresses, make up is only used for performances and job interviews. I keep my hair short specifically to not deal with styling. So there's that, but I have a weakness for the new My Little Pony series and I have a bit of a want to sew. So my boyfriend jokes that I am a girly girl. But he has long hair and also has some signs of being a brony.
My question lies not in am I a girly girl or is my boyfriend masculine enough, its why does it matter how masculine or feminine we are? The reason I ask this is sometimes when he teases me about being girly, I catch myself being defensive. Does it make me less of a feminist?Is it the ego that I've built up of being one of the guys, and that to be one of the guys in some groups, losing most femininity is almost essential? If so, what does that say about American society? To be in  a man's world you must assimilate to fit in? Then what happens when at times its just not you?
Dealing with masculinity and femininity is a tricky feat. And most questions tend to lead to more questions. So have fun thinking these questions over dear readers.